Need help convincing wife

[dbltap22]

As the title states, I need some assistance in convincing the wife that the RR would be a valid choice and not just an ego buy.

my hx: I’ve owned a 90s explorer EB, small cross overs, a bmw coup and a the latest was a bmw wagon/hatch. ready for something different. I do road travel for work (between 1-6 hour drives). Mountain bike, hike, over night camping, small hauling errands in my time off. I tested the RR and fell in love with its mix of abilities.

Her hx: owned a bunch of full sized trucks to tow horses, grand Cherokee Overlander, and now an x5. She is adamant that I’ll hate having a truck stemming from my smaller car history and her day to day experience with full size trucks. Mind you, she hasn’t drive one yet. She loves speed and a well put together automobile. It’s my fault she found BMW

RR pro: versatile, capable, good on the roads, great looking, fast.

RR cons: Gas mileage and size
(Garage space).

I’m relatively confident that what she drives it, she’ll like it. There’s always a chance that I could blow back on me. Then I’m sunk.

assistance welcome.

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[Texas Ranger]

It is definitely an ego purchase and a great one compared to other options currently available.

For example you can get a f150 single cab (same dimensions as ranger) and put a factory warrantied supercharger and get similar mpg and low 11 second 1/4’s while matching a similar price point.

Hotdog, now that’s some quality ego

 

[richman555]

Well if she likes speed as you say, take her on a surprise trip to the Ranger Raptor Assault School in Utah.

 

[Alaska Steve]

Simple… your ride… your decision. She has what she wants. It doesn’t appear to be a budget issue.

 

[fordgt]

Simple… your ride… your decision. She has what she wants. It doesn’t appear to be a budget issue.

I would have to agree with this, you spend up to 6 hours at a time in the vehicle. You should spend it in what makes you happy.

 

[Dutch]

Take your balls out of her purse when she's not looking -- then go get the truck.

 

[stemplar]

Simple… your ride… your decision. She has what she wants. It doesn’t appear to be a budget issue.

I would have to disagree with this. Not considering a spouse's input on a big purchase decision isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. It sounds to me like the wife has concerns about him being happy with the purchase, so fill in the blanks for her, so to speak. Take richman555's idea and take her to the raptor school, or just take her on a test drive of one. Make an objective list of the attributes the truck has and where it meets your needs for a vehicle. Think of the buying decision as a journey that you're embarking on as a couple. It sounds like she's got her head in the right place and just needs to hear that it's the right vehicle for you.

 

[Don Vandyke]

I thought I was on a swinger website until I started reading. Take her for a test drive.

 

[dbltap22]

It is definitely an ego purchase and a great one compared to other options currently available.

For example you can get a f150 single cab (same dimensions as ranger) and put a factory warrantied supercharger and get similar mpg and low 11 second 1/4’s while matching a similar price point.

Hotdog, now that’s some quality ego

She ain’t gonna go for me modding a car. I did that stuff to my last one. While I don’t think it was the root cause, it is in my wife’s eyes.

 

[Alaska Steve]

I would have to disagree with this. Not considering a spouse's input on a big purchase decision isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. It sounds to me like the wife has concerns about him being happy with the purchase, so fill in the blanks for her, so to speak. Take richman555's idea and take her to the raptor school, or just take her on a test drive of one. Make an objective list of the attributes the truck has and where it meets your needs for a vehicle. Think of the buying decision as a journey that you're embarking on as a couple. It sounds like she's got her head in the right place and just needs to hear that it's the right vehicle for you.

That may be why I’ve been single for 18yrs. I don’t have to satisfy anyone’s feelings on my purchase decisions. That said, the two of them have already agreed on the need and the budget, or so it appears.
On a related note, my brother bought a travel trailer without consulting his wife and she was so mad, she never set foot in it. In spite of her, my brother took many camping trips with the kids and without her over many years. Many arguments ensued, the travel trailer was eventually sold and he never made a big purchase without her approval again. I, on the other hand, work very hard for what I have. I make my own decisions regarding what I need versus what I want. I deprive myself regularly and default more to what I need. But when it comes to vehicles, I’ve learned that I always regret not getting what I want when I default to what I need.

 

[dbltap22]

Well if she likes speed as you say, take her on a surprise trip to the Ranger Raptor Assault School in Utah.

she does. The thought her overland hemi was the Shi+. Then I introduced her to speed and performance. BMWs b58 was the closer.

 

[Boosted6G]

"I work (or worked, if retired) hard, and we can afford it, so I deserve it."

Always works for me.

 

[dbltap22]

I would have to disagree with this. Not considering a spouse's input on a big purchase decision isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. It sounds to me like the wife has concerns about him being happy with the purchase, so fill in the blanks for her, so to speak. Take richman555's idea and take her to the raptor school, or just take her on a test drive of one. Make an objective list of the attributes the truck has and where it meets your needs for a vehicle. Think of the buying decision as a journey that you're embarking on as a couple. It sounds like she's got her head in the right place and just needs to hear that it's the right vehicle for you.

thank you. My last purchase was without her input and didn’t go well on a service level. (Stupid bmw n55 Engines). So I have to tread lightly.

I hoping that she will see what I saw when I drove the RR. That’s what happened for her car.

Simple… your ride… your decision. She has what she wants. It doesn’t appear to be a budget issue.

My last decision, she wasn’t consulted, didn’t go well. It’s being used against me.

finances have slightly changed. But nothing crazy.

 

[RANGER/HOBB]

Convincing her isn’t the right approach. After 51 years of marriage, I’ve found it best to seek a compromise.

Present your need/requirement allowing her to see the benefits. Allow her make a decision based upon your input and her understanding. Sometimes the door opens for something better.

Compromise, will always trump a forceful decision or attempt to convince her of something she doesn’t understand or believe. If she sees the desire and need, her heart will be more open to an agreeable decision.

 

[stemplar]

I’ve been married for, I dunno, 25 years or so, and it sounds to me based on your original post, that she wants what’s right for you. Give it time, and like I said earlier, show her that you’ve thought it through and it really does meet your needs as a vehicle. If your wife is like mine then she’ll want what’s makes her husband happy. Or as with me and motorcycles, you’ll eventually hear the magic words, “just shut up and buy the damned motorcycle already! Just promise you won’t make me hear about it anymore.” Followed by the always appropriate response, “Yes dear.”

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