Need help convincing wife

[NASSTY]

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[dbltap22]

I’ve been married for, I dunno, 25 years or so, and it sounds to me based on your original post, that she wants what’s right for you. Give it time, and like I said earlier, show her that you’ve thought it through and it really does meet your needs as a vehicle. If your wife is like mine then she’ll want what’s makes her husband happy. Or as with me and motorcycles, you’ll eventually hear the magic words, “just shut up and buy the damned motorcycle already! Just promise you won’t make me hear about it anymore.” Followed by the always appropriate response, “Yes dear.”

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[dbltap22]

Convincing her isn’t the right approach. After 51 years of marriage, I’ve found it best to seek a compromise.

Present your need/requirement allowing her to see the benefits. Allow her make a decision based upon your input and her understanding. Sometimes the door opens for something better.

Compromise, will always trump a forceful decision or attempt to convince her of something she does understand or believe. If she sees the desire and need, her heart will be more open to an agreeable decision.

There is a lot of truth in these words. Thank you

 

[dmac72]

I think you’re asking the wrong question.

I think you should evaluate whether or not the RR is the right vehicle for you, your desires, and needs (importantly, within the budget you and your wife have agreed to), and if it is, then you should get it. Then, by owning it, you’ll know if it was the right choice for you or not. And it’s ok if it wasn’t.

And then, the question you should really be asking is how you can get your wife to understand that the role of a partner is to provide support and encouragement, not police or criticize your decisions. Reality has an amazingly precise way of crushing dreams that weren’t realistic. So, you don’t need to be a dream crusher for your partner. If their dream was misguided or wrong, reality will serve them that lesson. Let them explore the results of their decisions and come to conclusions themselves.

 

[rocsteady]

from another thread I wrote that I think might apply here?:
"I've had my 2024 RR since the middle of December and I haven't found a road condition that I can't enjoy driving it in/on yet. From hooning it around on snow covered roads to zipping along any and all dirt roads I can find to playing road rally on dry or wet twisty back roads and even to the 70+ mile highway commute to work, it's a terrific "compromise" that allows for enjoyable antics on all of the above. Even been good when moving and having it packed to the gills with all my junk.
I really like the way it looks, rugged and sporty (for a pickup) at the same time, more than adequate giddyup even without the power upgrade, not a bad exhaust note (for a V6), a suspension that deals with almost anything I can find to ride over, ability to do some decent rock crawling and baja-wannabe blasting around, comfortable seats, good driving position, hugely helpful front/rear/side view cameras. I am really, really happy with it.
As I've said before, the only way I could like it any better is if it had a Coyote 5.0 - mostly for the V8 sound; ventilated seats for the summer - just hate sweating just to sweat in Jersey summers; and dual valve shocks - although this one is more for the idea as it's pretty darn good now with just control on the compression side."
I think it's just really hard to beat for a vehicle that checks more boxes than any one vehicle that I've owned before (and I've had 18...from an 80's Z28, to '95, 2001, and 2003 BMW M3s, to a Ford Explorer, two Dodges, a '15 Durango and a '20 Scat Pack Charger, to a 2012 Raptor, to a 2018 F150 to three different S550 Shelbys, to a 2021 Colorado ZR2).

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[rwolfcastle]

I've had my share of small/fast cars (Audi S4, Golf R, WRX STI, Mini Cooper S) and driven even faster cars (Lamborghinis, Ferraris, Porsches, Ford GT, Corvette ZR1, etc..) and I have to say that the RRaptor has not disappointed in the slightest. The feeling those cars give you on the track is the exact same feeling the Raptor gives you out on the dirt in baja mode.

The reason I went with a mid-size is because it drives like a car in terms of parking and city driving. It doesn't feel like you're driving a big vehicle in parking lots. It also fits easily in any standard size garage. If the decision to get it is not a financial one, then I'd say get her on a test drive and if you can, get on the dirt.

Finally, as far as commuters go, the Raptor is so plush and comfortable on the road. It does everything really well. I LOVE fast cars and have always preferred manual transmissions. I do not regret my RR purchase, one of the best vehicles I've ever owned. If I get the itch for a fast car again, I'll probably get an older/cheaper M3 or something similar for the weekends and keep the truck for everyday driving and off road.



*edit* you were talking more about your history with smaller cars and not necessarily "fast" cars but the point still stands. Most fast cars are pretty small. Mid-size trucks drive SO different from full-size trucks it's not even close.

 

[John E Davies]

My biggest disappointment in moving from a Land Cruiser 200 to a RR is the storage. My wife forbids removing the rear seat entirely and installing a shelf or drawer system, so that leaves very little USABLE inside space. The bed storage is OK for a compact truck, but even with a great canopy it is UNHEATED and wide open to dust and water entry. The latter requires very extensive labor and some parts to fix, but is doable. Also the suspension springs are soft, so the butt sags or lists with just 500 pounds of stuff (including canopy). It really needs AIRBAGS to correct that. Other than the risk of liquids freezing in the bed, and the too soft springs for long camping adventures or towing, I love my RR, it thrills me every time I get inside. The driving dynamics are NOTHING like a regular Ranger, so do not base a buying decision on a local test drive of a Lariat, even a 2.7...

John Davies
Spokane WA USA.

 

[dbltap22]

My biggest disappointment in moving from a Land Cruiser 200 to a RR is the storage. My wife forbids removing the rear seat entirely and installing a shelf or drawer system, so that leaves very little USABLE inside space. The bed storage is OK for a compact truck, but even with a great canopy it is UNHEATED and wide open to dust and water entry. The latter requires very extensive labor and some parts to fix, but is doable. Also the suspension springs are soft, so the butt sags or lists with just 500 pounds of stuff (including canopy). It really needs AIRBAGS to correct that. Other than the risk of liquids freezing in the bed, and the too soft springs for long camping adventures or towing, I love my RR, it thrills me every time I get inside. The driving dynamics are NOTHING like a regular Ranger, so do not base a buying decision on a local test drive of a Lariat, even a 2.7...

John Davies
Spokane WA USA.

Storage is one of her points. The bed isn’t climate controlled and will be exposed to the elements. I do see her point on that. While it’s not optimal, it is not insurmountable.

I have driven all of the RRs competitors. None of them came close to its comfort or driving experience. When you throw in cost for what you get compared to the competition, it’s an easy decision.

 

[dbltap22]

I've had my share of small/fast cars (Audi S4, Golf R, WRX STI, Mini Cooper S) and driven even faster cars (Lamborghinis, Ferraris, Porsches, Ford GT, Corvette ZR1, etc..) and I have to say that the RRaptor has not disappointed in the slightest. The feeling those cars give you on the track is the exact same feeling the Raptor gives you out on the dirt in baja mode.

The reason I went with a mid-size is because it drives like a car in terms of parking and city driving. It doesn't feel like you're driving a big vehicle in parking lots. It also fits easily in any standard size garage. If the decision to get it is not a financial one, then I'd say get her on a test drive and if you can, get on the dirt.

Finally, as far as commuters go, the Raptor is so plush and comfortable on the road. It does everything really well. I LOVE fast cars and have always preferred manual transmissions. I do not regret my RR purchase, one of the best vehicles I've ever owned. If I get the itch for a fast car again, I'll probably get an older/cheaper M3 or something similar for the weekends and keep the truck for everyday driving and off road.



*edit* you were talking more about your history with smaller cars and not necessarily "fast" cars but the point still stands. Most fast cars are pretty small. Mid-size trucks drive SO different from full-size trucks it's not even close.

my last two cars were a 335i coup and x1 35i. Both with the n55. The power and driver engagement was great and was enough power to do what I wanted when I wanted.

Because I enjoy the performance and smaller size, she believes the x3 m40i or Macan S are my logical choices. She would be right if I was wanting a replacement with a bit more practicality. Fact is I rarely step on it or throw it into curves anymore. And ready for something with some size. The RR seems to check those boxes. Power, comfort, versatility to haul our outdoor equipment, etc.

 

[Jason B]

Definitely an ego purchase for use as you describe. A Lariat or XLT High with the 2.7 will do everything you described and save you a bit of cash for upgrades.

 

[Bagman51]

As the title states, I need some assistance in convincing the wife that the RR would be a valid choice and not just an ego buy.

my hx: I’ve owned a 90s explorer EB, small cross overs, a bmw coup and a the latest was a bmw wagon/hatch. ready for something different. I do road travel for work (between 1-6 hour drives). Mountain bike, hike, over night camping, small hauling errands in my time off. I tested the RR and fell in love with its mix of abilities.

Her hx: owned a bunch of full sized trucks to tow horses, grand Cherokee Overlander, and now an x5. She is adamant that I’ll hate having a truck stemming from my smaller car history and her day to day experience with full size trucks. Mind you, she hasn’t drive one yet. She loves speed and a well put together automobile. It’s my fault she found BMW

RR pro: versatile, capable, good on the roads, great looking, fast.

RR cons: Gas mileage and size
(Garage space).

I’m relatively confident that what she drives it, she’ll like it. There’s always a chance that I could blow back on me. Then I’m sunk.

assistance welcome.

Thought about the Maverick? Better fuel use and very versatile without the bigger footprint of the Ranger.

 

[Dre' Dawg]

As the title states, I need some assistance in convincing the wife that the RR would be a valid choice and not just an ego buy.

my hx: I’ve owned a 90s explorer EB, small cross overs, a bmw coup and a the latest was a bmw wagon/hatch. ready for something different. I do road travel for work (between 1-6 hour drives). Mountain bike, hike, over night camping, small hauling errands in my time off. I tested the RR and fell in love with its mix of abilities.

Her hx: owned a bunch of full sized trucks to tow horses, grand Cherokee Overlander, and now an x5. She is adamant that I’ll hate having a truck stemming from my smaller car history and her day to day experience with full size trucks. Mind you, she hasn’t drive one yet. She loves speed and a well put together automobile. It’s my fault she found BMW

RR pro: versatile, capable, good on the roads, great looking, fast.

RR cons: Gas mileage and size
(Garage space).

I’m relatively confident that what she drives it, she’ll like it. There’s always a chance that I could blow back on me. Then I’m sunk.

assistance welcome.

Have her watch youtube reviews on the RR. A loaded full size truck would set you back around 80-90K. The RR comes loaded under 60K. She will love the speed and tunable exhaust, especially in baja mode! If that is not enough tell her you can get a tune kit to bring it up to 450HP. To top it off they are a rare sight on the road, not like the Chevys / GMC 1500 or F-150s. If all else fails tell her you will take her on vacation the French Polynesians Islands, Bora Bora, Tahiti & Papeete! Good luck.

 

[fordgt]

Thought about the Maverick? Better fuel use and very versatile without the bigger footprint of the Ranger.

My wife talked me out of a Maverick for the Ranger. Said she was sure I would not be happy with it. Glad I listened.

 

[CodyMac]

Someone may have already posted this, but my take is that it wins almost every head to head competition with other vehicles in its class, and it costs roughly $7000 less. If I was still married, this would have gone a long way when justifying to my ex.

 

[RonM_TX]

The approach I took was to fully research every pickup out there. Night after night watching every YouTube video on pickups. After many months my wife asked when we could get back to regular TV. She asked when I was going to decide. Toss up between an F150 with a Whipple and the RR. At this point she was so happy that I ordered a RR, didn't even ask the price! Funny thing was six months earlier I had a deal for a RR at $60K but she said no, way too expensive.

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